People that treat money like it’s a prize to say “I won at life” annoy me. Money makes life easier, don’t get me wrong. Not needing to worry about bills/rent/food/a mortgage etc. is a good thing. It’s more the “wanting of ‘things'” that gets to me.
Recently, I showed one of my listings (newsflash…i’m a realtor now), to a young mother who needed an inexpensive 2 bedroom in North Austin that was section 8 approved so she could use her voucher. She had a new iphone, was driving a nice sports car, and was very well dressed. Tax money was paying for her housing, but she could afford those things? Sign me up? When I pulled her credit report for the application, it revealed all. She was in debt up to her ears.
I’ll be the first to call myself out: I am the owner of some “things” that some people seem to want more than anything. I don’t exactly crave them and hinge my happiness on them though. Nor do I sacrifice necessity to have the latest. I shop out the best deals and am not really big on impulse buying. Most everything I own was bought on sale, and I probably creep out salespeople with how many times I’ll go look at ONE thing before I finally buy it. Now I’m done patting myself on the back for this…. I know I’m not perfect and I slip up sometimes, but I know happiness is not a new _______.
My mother recently asked what I wanted for my birthday and I didn’t have an answer. We were shopping for hiking/water shoes at the time and I picked up a pair and said “uhmm…you can buy me these?” Mom was not satisfied and wanted to get me something that wasn’t a necessity for our upcoming trip. She took me over to the handbags and the conversation went kind of like this:
Mom: What about one of these?
Me: I really like the purse I have though.
Mom: Well it is pretty nice, but you’ve had it for three years and you could get a fun one…in a color…
Me: I just don’t really need it.
My mom did not understand. I think there might be something wrong with me. A few years ago, in this situation, I would have already known the brand, style, and color, even before being asked if I wanted anything. I guess the “things” that I want more than anything, can not be bought.
I kind of like it that way.